Take care and goodbye

I once had a talk, not long ago,
about moving on, of how to know
and how to stop wallowing
and perhaps let go.

A friend once suggested,
it is when you stop updating yourself
about his life.
A friend once said,
it is when you stop asking yourself
whether you move on.
Another said,
it is when he doesn't cross your mind
anymore.

Does time matter? the duration of missing someone
Does throwing away everything he gave matter? to stop yourself from missing
Does not doing things you like together helps? to stop the memories.

I started pondering, and getting hung up over the thought
drunk on words, and memories.
perhaps what i need to realize
is that
to let go and move on
-
is not to all.